Exploring fantasies safely and honestly
Sharing a fantasy can bring couples closer, but it works best with clear limits and plenty of conversation. Here is a safe way to start.
Fantasies can be fun to explore, especially when both people feel safe to share them. The key is talking first, and keeping the conversation open about what each of you wants and doesn't want.
Talk before acting
Describe the fantasy and say what you'd want to try, and what you'd rather keep in imagination. Agree on which parts are for talking only, and which might happen in practice.
Set limits and a stop word
Choose a stop word and agree that either person can end a scene at any point. Discuss any boundaries, such as things you won't do or topics that are off limits.
Revisit it
After exploring a fantasy, talk about how it felt. Decide together whether to try it again, change it or leave it aside.