Mindful touch: a short practice for two

Mindful touch asks each person to focus on sensation without a goal. It is a gentle way to reconnect, and it can help people who feel rushed or distracted to slow down together.

The practice

Take turns touching each other's arms or back for five minutes each. The person being touched says what they notice, and the other person listens without responding with advice or judgement.

Changing roles

Switch roles and repeat the practice. Notice how it feels to give touch and to receive it, and whether either feels easier.

Afterwards

Talk about how it felt, and what you would like to try again. Many couples find this a useful way to talk about touch without pressure.